On Saturday, January 13, I was headed toward Summerfield, North Carolina. It was to be a long day.
I met my goal to be on the road by 7 a.m. Our grandson, Hudson, a kindergarten student, had a basketball game at 10 in the gym at the elementary school where he and his sister attend.
After the game, I would drive to Mt. Pleasant United Methodist Church near Mcleansville in Guilford County to attend the funeral for my Uncle Harry. The family had asked me to be one of the two speakers during the service.
From Richmond, we take what has become a familiar route for us. Patterson Avenue to 288 to US 60, then a couple of two lane state roads that lead us to US 360, followed by US 58, and finally US 29.
This is a pretty drive with the openness of winter giving clear sight to rolling hills and rivers that still carve and sculpt the land along their banks. Today, the Appomattox River is noticeably out of its banks from the heavy rains that soaked much of the Middle Atlantic states earlier in the week.
When I arrive at the gym, Hudson’s game has already started. A neighbor and our son-in-law are coaching the team, and one of the neighbor’s son is also on the team.
I find a seat with Coach Matt’s wife and our granddaughter, Caroline. Our daughter is in San Francisco attending a baby shower for her cousin, Ashley.
I love basketball. I started playing in the fourth grade. I couldn’t imagine trying to learn how to play basketball when I was in kindergarten.
There is lots of energy on the court. Both teams have girls on their teams, and it is interesting to watch the dynamics of teamwork .
There are hurried herd sprints down the court in pursuit of the ball or the player with the ball. Some players can dribble the length of the floor. Others are good at holding the ball as the opposing team smothers the ball holder like ants swarming a crumb of food at a summer picnic.
Coaches and referees are patient. A few parent spectators are a tad boisterous. I silently wonder how they will handle their child’s participation in the years ahead. And, it appears that most players enjoy the game, especially the post game snack.
I was able to get a post game photograph with Hudson, Caroline and their father, Doug. Courtesy of Nana, I handed off to them a couple of gift cards to McDonald’s. I couldn’t tell you the last time I ate at McDonald’s.
We walked to our cars and said goodbye. I checked my directions and headed toward Mt. Pleasant United Methodist Church. For many years, Mt. Pleasant had been a part of the Pike family. Church services, community events, weddings, and funerals had been a part of the ups and downs of life.
Harry was our last Uncle, 84 years old. He was the final of eleven children to be born to Izetta and Charlie Pike.
The visitation and funeral were a good celebration of Harry’s life. The Sanctuary was packed with family, friends, and the congregation.
My cousins Charles, Roger, David, Stuart, Jim, Harry’s brother-in-law, James, and I were pallbearers. Luckily, the funeral home staff gave us helpful instructions and they helped with the lifting too. The walk from the back of the hearse to the grave site was tricky, but none of us stumbled.
It was a beautiful, blue sky day, but a cold, blustery wind cut through us. The preacher’s words were brief and true, and we walked back into the fellowship hall for a reception.
I’m convinced that food and fellowship following a funeral service give a family important sustenance as they prepare for challenging days ahead.
Wanting as much daylight as I could give myself on the drive back to Richmond, a bit after four, I was working my way toward US 29.
I made good time, and the sun began to fade as I worked my way up US 360.
Soon, I was at the stoplight for State Road 604/Chula Road. I made the left turn on to Chula. Chula Road is two lanes with a fair amount of local traffic. I was awake and alert, but at some point before I reached the Appomattox River Bridge I went slightly drove off the edge of the road surface.
When I did this, the right front tire went down into a worn, deep rut. Annoyed and shocked, I turned the car back up to the road’s surface. Only on the asphalt for a few feet, the tire warning message instantly appeared on the monitor. This was quickly followed by the sound of a tire that had the air knocked out of it.
Bad words spewed at my driving mistake. The injured tire crossed the Appomattox River Bridge. It groaned up a slight hill. I pulled off the side of the road just short of the entrance to the Appomattox Trace subdivision.
I put on my flashers, looked for my AAA card, checked the damaged tire, and called AAA.
I placed that call at 6:50 p.m. At some point after nine, I canceled the call for service from an incompetent and irresponsible AAA.
Not long after I had pulled over and stopped, a Powhatan County Sheriff Deputy checked on me. When I told him I had called AAA, he didn’t have much hope that they would show up.
Luckily, he gave me a card with the number for the dispatcher for the sheriff’s department. I called the dispatcher, explained my problem.
The dispatcher gave me the number for Seay’s Towing. I called Seay’s. In less than forty minutes, the owner, Willie showed up in one of his trucks. Willie quickly loaded the car. He drove me the nineteen miles back to Richmond, dropped the car at my preferred repair shop, and then drove me to our house.
After church the next day, I drove back to the site of my shortcomings. I wanted to see in the daylight where I went wrong. I found a 20 to 30 foot section along the roadway where a rut the width of a tire had worn away turf and soil. I could see from the depth, length, and condition of the road surface that I wasn’t the only person to have this encounter.
Turns out I was lucky. I only had to replace the right front tire. The damage could have been worse, and yes, if I had over corrected to my mistake I could have been injured.
And as long as I relive that long evening, I will never forget Willie’s words to me when I apologized to him for interrupting his Saturday night. He looked at me and said, “It ain’t no problem.”
I loved Willie’s attitude.
I thought about my own mentality when life hands us a long day of challenging circumstances.
Do I learn from the long day?
More importantly, when I encounter a person who is struggling with a long day, how often do I say “it ain’t no problem?”
Do I convey an attitude of compassion and support to this person?
How do I express to this worn, weary person “it ain’t no problem?”
And, I wonder, how often am I the problem because I fail to pause, listen, acknowledge, and care?